Surviving an LGBTQIA++ Struggle Session
Laugh at the cute non-binary presenter OR ELSE
“Well, she’s woman who thinks she is a man. That’s a red flag.”
I purposely attended the LGBTQ++ lecture at a training to stand up to the nonsense I would hear. I also wanted to see what it is like behind enemy lines.
I never used to think this way…
My early adolescence was characterized by The Michaels, White House blow jobs, and two famous gay deaths:
The Matthew Shepard murder was horrific…and PLEASE do not red pill me in the comments that he was a pedophile or something.
Matthew Shepard did not deserve his fate. I felt terrible for his family and friends. The pain and torture Matthew went through is hard to fathom.
About a year before, I spent the summer of 1997 captivated by serial killer Andrew Cunanan:
I’d watch the news every morning and PM with my Mom, half wondering what would happen, half wondering if he was nearby (In retrospect, I was a nerd who needed more friends and hobbies).
I never associated Cunanan’s sexuality with being insane or crazy; I thought oh, he’s a killer and gay.
I DID associate Matthew Shepard’s murder with his sexuality.
HE was murdered for being GAY. THAT was wrong.
My twenties were spent partying, trying (sometimes successfully) to have sex with good looking women. MANY of those women had gay friends. They were fun!
Nothing was ever pushed on me, and we all joked about things like who was actually better at sucking dick - I always said my girlfriend, and when someone gay would say well how do you know, I’d say NOT TODAY SATAN.
Actually I’d wink and say I bet you’d like to be the control group. Everyone laughed and joked, it was great.
Today, we have professional hockey teams EXPOUNDING on “LGBTQ+” YOUTH :
Have you MET a hockey player? They like beer, fighting, and women.
We also have women like this person, DEMANDING (almost spells demon hmmmm) EVERY hockey player wear the pride jersey:
It’s the Seinfeld ribbon bullies come to life:
It has gone too far. Live and let live has been replaced with wear flag bullies.
It is with this mindset that I went into my LGBTQ++ defendant awareness class….
The room was PACKED! It was mostly women, with two presenters (one male, one female, both “non-binary)
I planned to ask a tough question, just not sure what.
As time went on and the presenters pranced around while getting applause for their substance abuse problems (haha so much VODKA LAST NIGHT), I got angry.
I felt my skin simmer.
More talk of ‘affirming behaviors’, then:
EVEN IF THEY ARE MINORS.
“I have a question.”
The speaker skipped to the back, unaware of what was to happen.
“My defendant is a woman who thinks she’s a man. Don’t I owe her the truth that she’s a woman?”
You could hear a pin drop. The man with the microphone had his jaw hit the floor. After a few long seconds, the speaker up front responded:
“What does them being trans have anything to do with their case?”
I took a deep breath and responded:
“Well, she’s woman who thinks she is a man. That’s a red flag for mental illness.”
The next thirty minutes consisted of the speakers stammering to say things like “mental health and identifying as trans are TOTALLY different”
Speaker after speaker, always female, would stand up and say something like:
“Addressing the speaker in back, I’m a psychologist and”….
“In my courtroom, I have many trans youth. How do I properly AFFIRM THEM?!?!”
I sat there taking it all in. I wonder if this is how Romans felt watching farm after farm be foreclosed on, slave after slave pour into their city….
Multiple people, all men, came up to me after and thanked me for speaking up. We shook our heads at the craziness, then our hands to say ‘best of luck!”
You have to speak up for those too afraid to say anything.
Most people still think we are in a live and let live era.
They want to go home, eat dinner with their family, pretend their kids are learning math not that math and white people are racist.
You have to speak up for your family too.
This is coming for everyone. Even the legal profession, so called “bastions of truth”, are all over this.
But I’m scared!
I was too.
I got this advice from James Lindsay. Start by saying it out loud to yourself. Just say the words and put them into the universe.
Once you feel comfortable saying how to feel, start picking and choosing where you say it:
Family, close friends, the Home Depot lumber section (not many trans carpenters, too hard in heels).
Once you are good there, seek to do it where people really need it:
Behind enemy lines, aka the struggle sessions.
We will win, but it has to start with each of us saying what we believe out loud, even if just to ourselves.
Otherwise….more of this and in your neighborhood:
NAMASTE,
KONG
That is very good advice on saying something out loud to make it real. I remember quitting a job I hated but first I had to rant out loud to myself alone. Then tell friends -> then family. And then it was real enough to have the conversation.
My company's leadership has gone all-in on DIE. Lot of business w state and local governments who filter for and require providers to demonstrate their obeisance to the ideology.
Local offices are more sane, but tendrils are spreading, with DIE elements of annual performance goals, company-wide meetings, etc.
On the other side, we have lots of business with labor unions - carpenters, electricians, dockworkers - who tend to fall on the opposite side of the ideological spectrum. Interesting seeing the two side mix.