How I get everything done
The art and science of managing chaos
“I am the stormrider”
There was a funny tweet about a guy who could not figure out how his friend stayed calm under every circumstance. His reply was “I am the storm rider.”
You also need to be a storm rider. After age 18, or 21, life just piles up:
relationships
family getting older
career/business
I am particular adapt at piling things onto my plate at all times, whether it be starting my law firm, working through tragedy (technically not my fault but I was the one who made a baby with her, no regrets but it still happened), and staying in the military.
A friend paid me a nice compliment this weekend. We were out for a drink, and I was talking about the firm. He looks at me and says, “I have no idea how you stay in shape while dealing with all of that AND the Army.”
Here are a few ways I keep my shit together and get it all done:
First, remembering that things and people will fall off, and that’s ok
I have many friends who I have not spoken to in years. That is ok. I used to be the “I’ll reach out” guy, but eventually I asked myself why. Why am I always the one that has to reach out to certain people.
So I stopped.
A few kept reaching out, and we are still friends. Many dropped off, and that’s ok.
Work is no different. The projects you are interested in will stay top of mind, and you’ll work on them. The “I SHOULD really do this” tasks that, you probably should do, but don’t actually care about, will drop off.
And that’s ok, because you don’t actually care.
Focusing on what matters: my son, my business, my girlfriend
I love my family, love my friends, but those three are the top priorities. My son is my world. Without my business, we would be homeless, so I need to focus on that. Love my girlfriend to the moon and back. She’s a responsible, low maintenance adult, which is something I appreciate about her. She adds to my life, and also does not take anything away with drama or BS.
I still keep in touch with family and friends, but…
